Turning our Wounds to Wisdom...
Our introduction to parenthood started becoming parents of Identical Triplets! We were certainly very surprised, as we didn’t know such a miracle was possible naturally!
On September 3, 2013 our beautiful daughters were born: Aliyah, Naylah and Leylah. We had finally survived an incredibly challenging journey. We had made it!
On Friday, September 13, 2013... Naylah went back to heaven. As her mom, I knew she was my daughter because she went through 10 hours of multiple surgeries and procedures... She was so strong and a fighter, just like her Mama. We were with her through every moment.
A part of me died that day!
At the time of our first family photo, Naylah had already passed. I woke up the next day and I could barely breath. The pain of losing your child is impossible to express and I find myself praying for all those who have ever or will ever live through this experience. There is simply nothing that compares.
We went back to the hospital the next morning to see our babies in the NICU and the smiles of Aliyah and Leylah just brought us back on earth. After bringing our babies home, we didn't leave our house. Days went by, weeks and months... We were so shocked, traumatized that we couldn't understand the pain we were feeling. So we hung on to the beautiful miracles we had at home. Our children were and will always be the greatest blessing of our lives and we feel privileged to have an angel in heaven looking after her sisters.
We have asked ourselves so many times, why would God or life choose us to go through this? But we know that if we spend the rest of our lives questioning, we will miss out on happiness and the greatest moments of our lives.
We are incredibly thankful to the friends and family who have stood by us and continue to stand by us through the most difficult moments. The ones who continue to check on us, who send messages and never expect a response and the ones who continue to be there for us even when we don't have the heart to reply or call back.
Yes the pain is always there and sometimes we find ourselves caught off-guard by heartbreaking emotions… missing her touch, her face, her smile… EVERYTHING!
Through love and support, we are surviving… one day at a time and sometimes one moment at a time.
Trying to make sense of this incomprehensible reality, we have chosen to find a meaningful way to honor her memory by creating NAYLAH’S LEGACY, dedicated to supporting mothers and babies locally and globally.
Our hope is that fewer and fewer families will experience this kind of loss or pain.
P.S. We couldn't let the pain of life decide how our story ends...
Our beautiful Samiyah was born two years later, healthy, happy and seriously ready to take on the world!
Solange Tuyishime is an Inspirational Speaker, Transformational Coach and Philanthropist. Not only does Solange have the privilege of being the CEO & Co-Founder of NAYLAH’S LEGACY, she is also a UNICEF Canada Ambassador and the Director of the Miss Canada International and Miss Teen Canada International Organization.
Solange Tuyishime is from Fredericton New Brunswick. She was born and raised in East Africa and at the age of 13 she escaped from the war and genocide and moved to Canada.
She continued her education at École Sainte-Anne where she played various sports received numerous awards and scholarships. During her studies at St.Thomas University , Solange received a $6,000 ATV Media Scholarship, and in 2005, she graduated with a Bachelor of Applied Arts in Journalism (Honours) in French.
Solange continuously supported community development through her youth, volunteering with Multicultural Associations helping young immigrants, and at the YMCA as a youth soccer coach. Remembering her roots and taking a role in the community, Solange was a member of the African Student Union for numerous years, during which she became Vice President.
In 2004, she was crowned Miss New Brunswick Int’l 2004. This was an opportunity that gave her the chance to participate in the Miss Canada pageant. On August 27th, 2005, Solange Tuyishime was crowned Miss Canada Int’l 2006. Making history: Solange became the first title holder from New Brunswick to win a national title and the first Black woman to hold such a title amongst all pageants in Canada.
With the pageant scholarship, Solange decided to further her education, and graduated with a Master’s in Public Administrations from the University of Moncton in May 2008.
In 2010, Solange was nominated United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF)’s 2010 Official Spokesperson for Walk for Water and became the Spokesperson for UNICEF Canada National Campaign where she hosted a UNICEF Canada DVD distributed in over 3,000 schools. Today, Solange has the honour of being UNICEF Canada’s Ambassador, with the objective to encourage fundraising efforts, to educate and engage many in missions seeking to give every child change and opportunity in life to survive and thrive.
With two national pageant titles on her resume, Solange’s perseverance gave her four consecutive opportunities to represent Canada Internationally where she had the honour of coming home with the tile of Ms. Galaxy 2013.
Following her passion, Solange continues to dedicate her time to empowering young women across the globe. After her and her husband created foundation in memory of their daughter NAYLAH, Solange decided to combine both work by empowering young women, while raising funds to support mothers and babies locally and globally.
“My philosophy in life is to never be afraid of dreaming, even when it feels and appears impossible. Always work hard towards your objective, and believe in yourself. When one door closes, heal the wound because a greater door will be opened ahead. Be grateful, never take anything for granted, and surround yourself with a strong support system.” – Solange Tuyishime